Key differentiations
From NVCWiki
Some key differentiations in Nonviolent Communication. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!
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Differentiations about the four part model
- Observation vs. Evaluation
- Feeling vs. Thought
- Need vs. Strategy or request
- Request vs. Demand
- Persisting vs. Demanding
Differentiations about empathy
- Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe
- Empathy vs. Sympathy
- Empathy vs. Advice
- Empathy vs. Analysis
- Empathy vs. Reassurance
- Empathy vs. Storytelling
- Guessing vs. Knowing
- Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing
- Ten non-empathic forms: advising, one-upping, educating, consoling, story telling, shutting down, sympathising, interrogating, explaining, correcting (see the nvc book).
Jackal/Giraffe differentiations
- Power-with vs. Power-over
- Choice vs. Submission or rebellion
- Interdependence vs. Dependence or independence
- Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty
- Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force
- Appreciation vs. Approval, compliments or praise
- Value judgment vs. Moralistic judgment
- Life-connected vs. Life-alienated
- Shift vs. Compromise
- Respect for authority vs. Fear of authority
- Vulnerability vs. Weakness
- Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing
- Being nice vs. Giraffe
