NVC Research November Meeting

November Meeting Friday, November 3, 2006 at 3 PM EST (12 Noon PST)

Attendees

• Susanne Jones - Working on degree in communication to help her credibility
• Alexis Girnaut-Miller - Australian going between Australia and England.
• Tom Caruso - Who everyone seems to know.
• Marion Little - Masters in Dispute Resolution. Assessing NVC to teenage mothers for her thesis.

What research has been done.

No research except one article and several theses. Simon Beck - NVC and Integral Theory. Efforts of Frances Delahanty. Theoretical basis that Marion is working on. She talked to Marshall to find out his early influences. Quite a few inaccuracies to what Marshall said and what actually happenned. He remembers author but not book title for instance. So she's trying to put together accurate facts and then get them approved by Marshall. She is also working on getting anything that Marshall has written so she can piece it all together. Needs were only introduced in 90's and only wants were in model in 80's.

Alexis is interested in case studies in use of NVC in business. Charles

List of NVC Assumptions -> Hypotheses (Propositions).

1. Our basic nature is cooperative and compassionate. - For evidence see Mary Clark. In Search of Human Nature. 2002.
2. Our desire to get our physical and psychological needs met is our basis for all action. Maslow. Burton. Manfred Neef.
3. Our emotions stem from our needs. Candace Pert...Molecules of Emotions. Thich Naht Hahn...Creating True Peace. Cognitive Neuroscience (Michael Gazzaniga). Power of Human Needs in World Society...Coate and Roazti. Raine Eisler...Tomorrows Children a Blueprint for Education in the 21st Century.
4. Anger is a superordinate emotion. Underlying it is one or a combination of emotions such as fear, disappointment, frustration, resentment. Could turn this into a proposition. Is this an assumption about NVC or a general assumption? Is this an assumption that is necessary to practice NVC. Piece that would be a core assumption might be "A feeling vocabulary is important to express your experience more fully." There is an assumption around the need to increase your awareness of feelings and needs. Carl Rogers - A Way of Being. When we express any emotions without our needs we are considered to be less competent than when we use needs and requests as well. The opportunity is to measure the difference in perceived communication skill when people use feelings or NVC.
5. Anger is the result of thinking process which implies that other party should not have done what they did that disappointed, frightened and hurt us. Attributional theory. When I want something I'm not getting. I'm expecting someone to give something to me. And by demanding it I will not get what I want. "When we're angry we're assigning blame." Connection to shaming, blaming whether to others or to ourselves.

Action Items

• Suzanne will send the list out to those who were on this call. Sending out tonight or Sunday.

Agenda Items For Future Meeting

• More discussion of Core NVC Assumptions
• What can we do about trainer-initiated anecdotal research.
• Talk about retention research.

Next Meeting

NVC Research December Meeting December 10, 2006, 3 PM EST

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