NVC Research November Meeting

November Meeting Friday, November 3, 2006 at 3 PM EST (12 Noon PST)

Attendees

• Susanne Jones - Working on degree in communication to help her credibility
• Alexis Girnaut-Miller - Australian going between Australia and England.
• Tom Caruso - Who everyone seems to know.
• Marion Little - Masters in Dispute Resolution. Assessing NVC to teenage mothers for her thesis.

What research has been done.

No research except one article and several theses. Simon Beck - NVC and Integral Theory. Efforts of Frances Delahanty. Theoretical basis that Marion is working on. She talked to Marshall to find out his early influences. Quite a few inaccuracies to what Marshall said and what actually happenned. He remembers author but not book title for instance. So she's trying to put together accurate facts and then get them approved by Marshall. She is also working on getting anything that Marshall has written so she can piece it all together. Needs were only introduced in 90's and only wants were in model in 80's.

Alexis is interested in case studies in use of NVC in organizations...Charles Jones.

List of NVC Assumptions -> Hypotheses (Propositions).

1. Our basic nature is cooperative and compassionate.
• Mary Clark, In Search of Human Nature
• J. Heath [from Marion’s lecture on 11/3]
• Field of Primatology - Barbara J. King, The College of William and Mary has done related work on bonabo chimps
• Frances Collins, National Human Genome Research Institute - Language of God, 2006
2. Our desire to get our physical and psychological needs met is the basis for our actions.
• Key Differentiations – NVC Trainer Certification Package
• Burton - Needs theory
• Abraham Maslow, Toward a Psychology of Being, 3rd Edition, 1998
• Manfred Neef – needs-based economy
• Ghandi
3. Our emotions stem from our needs. When our needs are being met, we feel positive emotions, when our needs are not being met, we feel negative emotions.
• Field of Nueroscience - Candace Pert - The Molecules of Emotion, 1999
• The Budhha
• Thich Naht Hahn - Active Buddhism – Creating True Peace
• Field of Cognitive Neuroscience Emotion and Consciousness by Lisa Feldman Barrett, Paula M. Niedenthal, and Piotr Winkielman
• Anthony Hatzimoysis Philosophy and the Emotions, 2003
• Coate & Roseti - The Power of Human Needs in World Society
• Eisler, Raine, Tomorrows Children: A Blueprint for Education in the 21st Century, The Chalice in the Blade: A Partnership Education.
4. Anger is a combination of a feelings mixed with a judgment or blame of others. Underlying anger is one or a combination of emotions such as fear, disappointment, frustration, resentment. Is this an assumption about NVC or a general assumption? In other words, is this an assumption that is necessary to practice NVC? Maybe the core assumption is "A feeling vocabulary is important to express your experience more fully." There is an assumption around the need to increase your awareness of feelings and needs.
• Carl Jung, Basic Writings of C.G. Jung, 1993
• Carl Rogers - A Way of Being
5. Attributing blameworthiness to others is likely to lead us to withhold communication or resources from others, and/or initiate verbal or physical punishment against them. Anger is the result of a thinking process which implies that the another party should not have done what they did that disappointed, frightened and hurt us. When I want something I'm not getting. I'm expecting someone to give something to me. And by demanding it I will not get what I want. "When we're angry we're assigning blame." Connection to shaming, blaming whether to others or to ourselves.
• Bernard Weiner, An Attributional Theory of Motivation and Emotion.
6. Verbal and nonverbal negative affect is usually perceived as incompetent communication behavior. We are more likely to be seen as a competent communicator (effective + appropriate) when we express our feelings, explain how those feelings are connected to our needs, and then make clear requests of the person we want to meet our need. Therefore, it is important to increase awareness of one’s feelings and needs which can be facilitated by developing a literacy (vocabulary) about feelings and needs.
• Daniel Goldman – emotional flooding & physiological testing which might show that, + as we engage our neocortex, the physiology begins to change?

Action Items

• Suzanne will send the list out to those who were on this call. Sending out tonight or Sunday.

Agenda Items For Future Meeting

• More discussion of Core NVC Assumptions
• What can we do about trainer-initiated anecdotal research.
• Talk about retention research.

Next Meeting

NVC Research December Meeting Friday, December 8, 2006, 3 PM EST (12 PM PST)

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