Empathy vs. Sympathy - Revision history

Cleonn: Minor spelling correction.

2006-06-21T11:46:28Z

Minor spelling correction.

Jori at 06:52, 24 May 2006

2006-05-24T06:52:09Z

John Abbe: reverted could to should, see talk page

2006-01-23T22:44:28Z

reverted could to should, see talk page

66.167.129.181 at 22:34, 23 January 2006

2006-01-23T22:34:21Z

John Abbe at 02:42, 21 December 2005

2005-12-21T02:42:32Z

Mwi at 11:12, 19 December 2005

2005-12-19T11:12:24Z

New page

{| border=1
|
| '''Empathy'''
| '''Sympath'''y
|-
| Focus of Attention
| The focus of attention is completely at the feelings and needs of the other
| The focus of attention ''switches'' between what's alive in the other and me
|-
|}

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-Note that sometimes people do actually get some empathy by hearing that others have similar experiences - it may meet their need for companionship as well. As with all [[key differentiations]] we are not judging right and wrong, simple explaining a difference for the sake of clarity. The important distinction here iss whether your attention is with who you're listening to, or with yourself.
+Note that sometimes people do actually get some empathy by hearing that others have similar experiences - it may meet their need for companionship as well. As with all [[key differentiations]] we are not judging right and wrong, simple explaining a difference for the sake of clarity. The important distinction here is whether your attention is with who you're listening to, or with yourself.
 There actually is no broadly agreed upon meaning of these two words. Some people use them exactly the other way around, but this is the way we use them in NVC.

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 Nick: My boss is a maniac! We've got a deadline coming up, and as always he's yelling at us all day.
-Marty: Oh, that's terrible! He could be calmer, yelling doesn't help.
+Marty: Oh, that's terrible! He should be calmer, yelling doesn't help.
 '''Sympathy (Me too)'''
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 Marty: Oh, i had a boss like that once. She'd freak out every time we were about to go into a big conference, it was terrible.
 Note that sometimes people do actually get some empathy by hearing that others have similar experiences - it may meet their need for companionship as well. As with all [[key differentiations]] we are not judging right and wrong, simple explaining a difference for the sake of clarity. The important distinction here iss whether your attention is with who you're listening to, or with yourself.
-There actually is no broadly agreed upon meaning of these two words. Some people use them exactly the other way around.
+There actually is no broadly agreed upon meaning of these two words. Some people use them exactly the other way around, but this is the way we use them in NVC.
 {| border=1

@@ Line 11: / Line 11: @@
 Nick: My boss is a maniac! We've got a deadline coming up, and as always he's yelling at us all day.
-Marty: Oh, that's terrible! He should be calmer, yelling doesn't help.
+Marty: Oh, that's terrible! He could be calmer, yelling doesn't help.
 '''Sympathy (Me too)'''

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 |-
 | Focus of Attention
-| The focus of attention is completely at the feelings and needs of the other
+| The focus of attention is completely on what is alive in the other
-| The focus of attention ''switches'' between what's alive in the other and me
+| The focus of attention is on my experience in response to what is alive in the other
 |-
 |}

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 {| border=1
+|
 | '''Empathy'''
-| '''Sympath'''y
+| '''Sympathy'''
 |-
 | Focus of Attention