http://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise&feed=atom&action=historyRequests vs. Demands exercise - Revision history2024-03-29T10:32:19ZRevision history for this page on the wikiMediaWiki 1.28.0http://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise&diff=2000&oldid=prevJohn Abbe: fixing links2005-12-28T22:29:47Z<p>fixing links</p>
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</table>John Abbehttp://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise&diff=1967&oldid=prevJohn Abbe: added link to differentiation2005-12-27T19:56:32Z<p>added link to differentiation</p>
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</table>John Abbehttp://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise&diff=1963&oldid=prevJohn Abbe at 19:45, 27 December 20052005-12-27T19:45:10Z<p></p>
<p><b>New page</b></p><div>Purpose: To help us explore the difference between why we do (or don't do) what we're asked.<br />
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Think about a time when someone asked you to do something and you didn't want to, but you did it anyway.<br />
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Write answers to these questions:<br />
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1. What did they ask you to do?<br />
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2. How exactly did they ask?<br />
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* "extra" words (not part of what they wanted you to do)<br />
* tone<br />
* body language<br />
* were you reluctant? how did they react?<br />
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3. Why did you not want to do it? ([[needs]])<br />
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4. Why did you decide to do it [anyway]? (needs)<br />
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5. How was your relationship affected over time?<br />
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Get together in pairs and talk about each person's situation, focusing on these questions.<br />
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Now, think about a time when someone asked you to do something, and you did it with no reservations at all; you were very happy to do it.<br />
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Write answers to the same questions (except 3)<br />
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Get together in pairs and talk about each person's situation, focusing on the questions, and why was their reluctance or bitterness in the first but not the second?<br />
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Whole group - what's different between the first situation and the second?<br />
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(in which did you experience more choice?)<br />
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(in which did you have more understanding/compassion for why they wanted it?)<br />
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When you ask someone to do something, if they agree what do you want their reason to be?<br />
(to meet their own needs)<br />
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What could you do to find out what their reasons are?<br />
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When someone asks you to do something, and you do it, what do you want your reasons to be?<br />
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What can you do when those are not your reasons?<br />
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Anything else interesting you noticed or learned from doing this?<br />
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Takeaways to mention if they haven't learned it themselves (or to emphasize if they have):<br />
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We have an intrinsic, natural need to contribute to others' well being.<br />
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Demand can trigger our need for freedom, masking our need to contribute.<br />
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Demand can be in the asking or in me.<br />
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(segues well into [[requests]])</div>John Abbe