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That's all nonviolence is - organized love. -- Joan Baez


You can observe a lot just by watching -- Yogi Berra


In NVC, we don't hear ultimatums/demands/criticisms: all communication is either an SOS or a care package. -- Kelly Bryson


Better than a thousand useless words is one single word, hearing which one attains peace -- Buddha, Dhammapada


Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart give yourself to it. -- Buddha


Don't do anything that isn't play -- Joseph Campbell, quoted by Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communications, DVD-2


Jaw jaw is better than war war. -- Winston Churchill


If we don't change direction soon, we'll end up where we're going. -- Irwin Corey


Empathy is full presence to what's alive in the other person at this moment. -- John Cunningham, CNVC Trainer


Communication is either connection or confusion. Connection meets needs, confusion doesn't. Most communication is confusion. We need to change that. NVC provides clarity and facilitates connection, which is what it's all about. -- Dee Davidson


If you want to make peace, you don't talk to your friends. You talk to your enemies. -- Moshe Dayan


If you can dream it, you can do it. -- Walt Disney


We never do things that are wrong, we do things that aren't in harmony with our needs. -- Doug Dolstad, CNVC Trainer


Everything has changed, except our way of thinking. -- Albert Einstein


Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts. -- Albert Einstein


The significant problems of our time cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them. -- Albert Einstein


People are like stained glass windows: they sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light within. -- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross


It isn't where you come from, it's where you're going that counts. -- Ella Fitzgerald


It seems to me that whereas power usually means power-over, the power of some person or group over some other person or group, it is possible to develop the conception of power-with, a jointly developed power, a co-active, not a coercive power. -- Mary Parker Follett


I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary, the evil it does is permanent. -- Mahatma Gandhi


Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth, "You owe me." Look what happens; with a love like that, it lights up the whole sky. -- Hafiz


By temporarily putting our solutions aside, we learn how to offer what is really needed first. Then our solutions can be received. -- Holley Humphrey, CNVC Trainer


Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. -- Carl Jung


Nonviolence means avoiding not only external physical violence, but also internal violence of spirit. You not only refuse to shoot a man, but you refuse to hate him. -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.


Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. -- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.


The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe without evaluating -- Jiddu Krishnamurti (quoted in Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication, 2003a, p. 10)


This is who I am. Not everybody has to like it. -- Lisa Kudrow


Compassion is the radicalism of our age. -- Dalai Lama


What is the meaning of life? To be happy and useful. -- Dalai Lama


Making a request without revealing the feeling/need takes all the joy out of other's service. -- Lucy Leu, CNVC Trainer


When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid. -- Audre Lourde


The world will change for the better when people decide that they are sick and tired of being sick and tired of the way the world is, and decide to change themselves. -- Sidney Madwed


Do not judge, and you will not be judged. For as you judge others you will also be judged. -- Jesus of Nazareth


Yes, the past can hurt, but the way I see it, you either run from it, or you learn from it. -- Rafiki, in The Lion King


No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -- Eleanor Roosevelt


My needs are happy to meet your needs! -- Jyoti Rose (Jodi Gross)


A difficult message is a chance to enrich someone's life. -- Marshall Rosenberg


A need is life seeking expression within us. -- Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.


All human actions are an attempt to meet needs. -- Marshall Rosenberg


All people ever say is: THANK YOU (a celebration of life) and PLEASE (an opportunity to make life more wonderful). -- Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.


All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished. -- Marshall Rosenberg


Any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Tragic, first because it decreases our likelihood of getting our need met! Even if we think it. And secondly, because it increases the likelihood of violence. That's why I'm suggesting any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Say the need! Learn a need-consciousness. -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication, DVD-1


Empathy before education. -- Marshall Rosenberg


Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met. -- Marshall Rosenberg


I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say. -- Marshall Rosenberg


I'm going to show you a technology today which takes insults and criticisms out of the airwaves. (Marshall puts on giraffe ears) With this technology, it will be impossible for you to hear criticisms, harsh remarks, or insults. All you can hear is what all people are ever saying, "please" and "thank you". What used to sound like criticism, judgment, or blame, you will see, are really tragic, suicidal expressions of "please". -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication, DVD-1.


If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met. -- Marshall Rosenberg


If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but make matters worse by trying to get rid of it. Put on giraffe ears. Try to hear what they are feeling and needing. -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication, DVD-2



Imagine connecting with the human spirit in each person in any situation at any time Imagine interacting with others in a way that allows everyone's need to be equally valued Imagine creating organizations and life-serving systems responsive to our needs and the needs of our environment -- Marshall B. Rosenberg


Imagine interacting with others in a way that allows everyone's need to be equally valued. Imagine creating organizations and life-serving systems responsive to our needs and the needs of our environment. -- Marshall B. Rosenberg


It's never what people do that make us angry, it's what we tell ourselves about what they did. -- Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.


Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you. -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communications, DVD-1

NO is always a YES to something else. -- Marshall Rosenberg


NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met. -- Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.


Needs are the expression of life through us. -- Marshall Rosenberg


Never put your "but" in the face of an angry person. -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication, DVD-2


People don't make us angry, how we think makes us angry. -- Marshall Rosenberg


Punishment damages goodwill and self-esteem, and shifts our attention from the intrinsic value of an action to external consequences. -- Marshall Rosenberg


The Nonviolent Communication process focuses on what's alive in us and what would make life more wonderful. What's alive in us are our needs, and I'm talking about the universal needs, the ones all living creatures have. Our feelings are simply a manifestation of what is happening with our needs. If our needs are being fulfilled, we feel pleasure. If our needs are not being fulfilled, we feel pain. Now, this does not exclude the analytic. I simply differentiate between life-serving analysis and life-alienated analysis... Analysis is a problem only when it gets disconnected from serving life. -- Marshall Rosenberg


They have most likely said it because they have an unmet need. -- Marshall Rosenberg


This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands. -- Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication


Understanding and connection can transcend conflict. -- Marshall Rosenberg


Violence is a tragic expression of unmet needs. -- Marshall Rosenberg


We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable, we know that isn't what we wanted. If it makes our life wonderful, we know this is a strategy which will meet out need. That's why Paul Tillich, the theologian says we need to sin courageously. You ask for what you want, hoping to meet your needs. If you get it and it makes life worse, you learn that this isn't what I want. -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication, DVD-1.


What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -- Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication


When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need. -- Marshall Rosenberg


When we hear the other person's feeling and needs, we recognize our common humanity. -- Marshall Rosenberg


When we understand the needs that motivate our own and other's behavior, we have no enemies. -- Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.


When you are in a jackal environment, never give them the power to submit or rebel. We want to teach this to children very early: Never lose track that you are always free to choose. Don't allow institutions to determine what you do. -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication, DVD-1.


When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy. -- Marshall Rosenberg


You don't have to be brilliant. It's enough to become progressively less stupid. -- Marshall B. Rosenberg


You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking, your chance of getting what you need is greatly decreased, especially when you follow the word "think" with the word "you". I predict you won't only not get heard, but I predict a defensive aggressive reaction. -- Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication, DVD-1.


[W]e have to live over into the other; we have to dissolve with our soul into the other. -- Rudolf Steiner 11/10/1919


O, Great Spirit, open my eyes, open heart's wings, open my ears to your voice in all things. -- Rumi


Out Beyond Ideas of Right Doing and Wrong Doing, There is a Field. I'll Meet you There -- Rumi


I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt. -- Virgina Satir


When we teach people to think in terms of enemy images, the bombs are not very far. -- Andrew Schumaker


Man did not weave the web of life, he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web he does to himself. All things are bound together. All things interconnect. -- Chief Seattle


Man did not weave the web ofver he does to the web he does to himself. All things are bound together. All things interconnect. -- Chief Seattle


There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. -- William Shakespeare, spoken by Hamlet


The only sensible person is my tailor. He measures me anew each time he sees me. -- George Bernard Shaw


Marshall Rosenberg, who teaches non-violent communication, was struck in reading psychological interviews with Nazi war criminals not by their abnormality, but that they used a language denying choice: "should," "one must," "have to." For example, Adolph Eichmann was asked, "Was it difficult for you to send these tens of thousands of people their death?" Eichmann replied, "To tell you the truth, it was easy. Our language made it easy." Asked to explain, Eichmann said, "My fellow officers and I coined our own name for our language. We called it amtssprache -- 'office talk.'" In office talk "you deny responsibility for your actions. So if anybody says, 'Why did you do it?' you say, 'I had to.' 'Why did you have to?' 'Superiors' orders. Company policy. It's the law.'" -- Sam Smith, Minutes of the Wannsee Conference, from the book "Why Bother", on the normalization of violence


I know nothing, except that I know nothing. -- Socrates


If it were all so simple! If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart? -- Alexsandr Solzhenitsyn


[I]n the future no human being is to find peace in the enjoyment of happiness if others beside him are unhappyEvery human being shall see in each and all of his fellow-men a hidden divinity that every human being is made in the likeness of the Godhead. When that time comesevery meeting between one man and another will of itself be in the nature of a religious rite, a sacrament -- Rudolf Steiner


People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. -- Unknown


During the 1950s the American psychologist Carl Rogers noticed the presence of a new faculty in the younger generation for which he used a word originally coined in 1912: empathy. In fact, what he was describing is a process which has become part of the experience of an ever-increasing number of those born after the end of the Second World War. Empathy arises out of sympathy, love, interest in and compassion for our fellow human being; it enables us to extend our own inner being into that of the other person and directly experience something of his essential nature. -- Baruch Luke Urieli, Learning to Experience the Etheric World


There is only one thing worse than being talked about and that is not being talked about. -- Oscar Wilde


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