Key differentiations
From NVCWiki
Differentiations about the four parts (Observation, Feeling, Need, Request):
- Observation vs. Evaluation
- Feeling vs. Thought
- Need vs. Strategy or request
- Request vs. Demand
- Power-with vs. Power-over
- Choice vs. Submission or rebellion
- Interdependence vs. Dependence or independence
- Persisting vs. Demanding
Differentiations about empathy:
- Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe
- Empathy vs. Sympathy
- Empathy vs. Advice
- Empathy vs. Analysis
- Empathy vs. Reassurance
- Empathy vs. Storytelling
- Guessing vs. Knowing
- Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing
More:
- Idiomatic giraffe vs. Classical Giraffe
- Stimulus vs. Cause
- Natural vs. Habitual
- Love as a need vs. Love as a feeling
- Mourning vs. Giving up
- Self-discipline vs. Obedience
- Instrinsic motivation vs. Extrinsic motivation
- Self & other vs. Jackal & giraffe
- Exchange vs. Gifting
Jackal/Giraffe differentiations:
- Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty
- Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force
- Appreciation vs. Approval, compliments or praise
- Value judgment vs. Moralistic judgment
- Life-connected vs. Life-alienated
- Shift vs. Compromise
- Respect for authority vs. Fear of authority
- Vulnerability vs. Weakness
- Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing
- Being nice vs. Giraffe
