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− | + | Some key differentiations in [[Nonviolent Communication]]. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself! | |
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+ | ==Differentiations about the [[Four part model]]== | ||
* [[Observation vs. Evaluation]] | * [[Observation vs. Evaluation]] | ||
* [[Feeling vs. Thought]] | * [[Feeling vs. Thought]] | ||
* [[Need vs. Strategy or request]] | * [[Need vs. Strategy or request]] | ||
* [[Request vs. Demand]] | * [[Request vs. Demand]] | ||
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* [[Persisting vs. Demanding]] | * [[Persisting vs. Demanding]] | ||
− | Differentiations about empathy | + | ==Differentiations about empathy== |
* [[Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe]] | * [[Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe]] | ||
* [[Empathy vs. Sympathy]] | * [[Empathy vs. Sympathy]] | ||
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* [[Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing]] | * [[Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing]] | ||
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− | + | * [[Interdependence vs. Dependence or independence]] | |
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* [[Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty]] | * [[Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty]] | ||
* [[Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force]] | * [[Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force]] | ||
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* [[Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing]] | * [[Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing]] | ||
* [[Being nice vs. Giraffe]] | * [[Being nice vs. Giraffe]] | ||
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+ | ==Miscellaneous== | ||
+ | * [[Idiomatic giraffe vs. Classical giraffe]] | ||
+ | * [[Stimulus vs. Cause]] | ||
+ | * [[Natural vs. Habitual]] | ||
+ | * [[Love as a need vs. Love as a feeling]] | ||
+ | * [[Mourning vs. Giving up]] | ||
+ | * [[Self-discipline vs. Obedience]] | ||
+ | * [[Instrinsic motivation vs. Extrinsic motivation]] | ||
+ | * [[Self & other vs. Jackal & giraffe]] | ||
+ | * [[Exchange vs. Gifting]] |
Revision as of 03:47, 21 December 2005
Some key differentiations in Nonviolent Communication. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!
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Differentiations about the Four part model
- Observation vs. Evaluation
- Feeling vs. Thought
- Need vs. Strategy or request
- Request vs. Demand
- Persisting vs. Demanding
Differentiations about empathy
- Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe
- Empathy vs. Sympathy
- Empathy vs. Advice
- Empathy vs. Analysis
- Empathy vs. Reassurance
- Empathy vs. Storytelling
- Guessing vs. Knowing
- Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing
Jackal/Giraffe differentiations
- Power-with vs. Power-over
- Choice vs. Submission or rebellion
- Interdependence vs. Dependence or independence
- Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty
- Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force
- Appreciation vs. Approval, compliments or praise
- Value judgment vs. Moralistic judgment
- Life-connected vs. Life-alienated
- Shift vs. Compromise
- Respect for authority vs. Fear of authority
- Vulnerability vs. Weakness
- Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing
- Being nice vs. Giraffe