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Some key differentiations in [[Nonviolent Communication]]. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!
 
Some key differentiations in [[Nonviolent Communication]]. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!
  
==Differentiations about the [[Four part model]]==
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==Differentiations about the [[four part model]]==
 
* [[Observation vs. Evaluation]]
 
* [[Observation vs. Evaluation]]
 
* [[Feeling vs. Thought]]
 
* [[Feeling vs. Thought]]
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* [[Guessing vs. Knowing]]
 
* [[Guessing vs. Knowing]]
 
* [[Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing]]
 
* [[Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing]]
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* Ten non-empathic forms: advising, one-upping, educating, consoling, story telling, shutting down, sympathising, interrogating, explaining, correcting (see the nvc book).
  
 
==Jackal/Giraffe differentiations==
 
==Jackal/Giraffe differentiations==
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* [[Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing]]
 
* [[Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing]]
 
* [[Being nice vs. Giraffe]]
 
* [[Being nice vs. Giraffe]]
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* [[Mourning vs. Guilt or self-blame]]
  
 
==Miscellaneous==
 
==Miscellaneous==
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* [[Self & other vs. Jackal & giraffe]]
 
* [[Self & other vs. Jackal & giraffe]]
 
* [[Exchange vs. Gifting]]
 
* [[Exchange vs. Gifting]]
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* [[Inspiration vs. Motivation]]
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==Origins==
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This list was originally compiled by [[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] from his own notes (initially based on a session with [[User:Marshall Rosenberg|Marshall Rosenberg]] at an [[IIT]]), the notes of [[User:Neill Gibson|Neill Gibson]] (presumably also from workshops and his own experience), and the key differentiations list in CNVC's trainer certification packet. [http://cnvc.org/trnrtobe_en.htm] CNVC gave permission to post the list here. It has evolved since then with the additions and changes of other wiki participants.
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Latest revision as of 14:41, 2 November 2008

Some key differentiations in Nonviolent Communication. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!

Differentiations about the four part model

Differentiations about empathy

Jackal/Giraffe differentiations

Miscellaneous


Origins

This list was originally compiled by John Abbe from his own notes (initially based on a session with Marshall Rosenberg at an IIT), the notes of Neill Gibson (presumably also from workshops and his own experience), and the key differentiations list in CNVC's trainer certification packet. [1] CNVC gave permission to post the list here. It has evolved since then with the additions and changes of other wiki participants.