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Differentiations about the four parts ([[Observation]], [[Feeling]], [[Need]], [[Request]]):
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Some key differentiations in [[Nonviolent Communication]]. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!
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==Differentiations about the [[four part model]]==
 
* [[Observation vs. Evaluation]]
 
* [[Observation vs. Evaluation]]
 
* [[Feeling vs. Thought]]
 
* [[Feeling vs. Thought]]
 
* [[Need vs. Strategy or request]]
 
* [[Need vs. Strategy or request]]
 
* [[Request vs. Demand]]
 
* [[Request vs. Demand]]
* [[Power-with vs. Power-over]]
 
* [[Choice vs. Submission or rebellion]]
 
* [[Interdependence vs. Dependence or independence]]
 
 
* [[Persisting vs. Demanding]]
 
* [[Persisting vs. Demanding]]
  
Differentiations about empathy:
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==Differentiations about empathy==
 
* [[Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe]]
 
* [[Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe]]
 
* [[Empathy vs. Sympathy]]
 
* [[Empathy vs. Sympathy]]
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* [[Guessing vs. Knowing]]
 
* [[Guessing vs. Knowing]]
 
* [[Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing]]
 
* [[Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing]]
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* Ten non-empathic forms: advising, one-upping, educating, consoling, story telling, shutting down, sympathising, interrogating, explaining, correcting (see the nvc book).
  
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==Jackal/Giraffe differentiations==
* [[Idiomatic giraffe vs. Classical Giraffe]]
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* [[Power-with vs. Power-over]]
* [[Stimulus vs. Cause]]
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* [[Choice vs. Submission or rebellion]]
* [[Natural vs. Habitual]]
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* [[Interdependence vs. Dependence or independence]]
* [[Love as a need vs. Love as a feeling]]
 
* [[Mourning vs. Giving up]]
 
* [[Self-discipline vs. Obedience]]
 
* [[Instrinsic motivation vs. Extrinsic motivation]]
 
* [[Self & other vs. Jackal & giraffe]]
 
* [[Exchange vs. Gifting]]
 
 
 
Jackal/Giraffe differentiations:
 
 
* [[Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty]]
 
* [[Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty]]
 
* [[Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force]]
 
* [[Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force]]
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* [[Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing]]
 
* [[Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing]]
 
* [[Being nice vs. Giraffe]]
 
* [[Being nice vs. Giraffe]]
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* [[Mourning vs. Guilt or self-blame]]
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==Miscellaneous==
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* [[Idiomatic giraffe vs. Classical giraffe]]
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* [[Stimulus vs. Cause]]
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* [[Natural vs. Habitual]]
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* [[Love as a need vs. Love as a feeling]]
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* [[Mourning vs. Giving up]]
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* [[Self-discipline vs. Obedience]]
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* [[Instrinsic motivation vs. Extrinsic motivation]]
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* [[Self & other vs. Jackal & giraffe]]
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* [[Exchange vs. Gifting]]
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* [[Inspiration vs. Motivation]]
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==Origins==
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This list was originally compiled by [[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] from his own notes (initially based on a session with [[User:Marshall Rosenberg|Marshall Rosenberg]] at an [[IIT]]), the notes of [[User:Neill Gibson|Neill Gibson]] (presumably also from workshops and his own experience), and the key differentiations list in CNVC's trainer certification packet. [http://cnvc.org/trnrtobe_en.htm] CNVC gave permission to post the list here. It has evolved since then with the additions and changes of other wiki participants.
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Latest revision as of 14:41, 2 November 2008

Some key differentiations in Nonviolent Communication. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!

Differentiations about the four part model

Differentiations about empathy

Jackal/Giraffe differentiations

Miscellaneous


Origins

This list was originally compiled by John Abbe from his own notes (initially based on a session with Marshall Rosenberg at an IIT), the notes of Neill Gibson (presumably also from workshops and his own experience), and the key differentiations list in CNVC's trainer certification packet. [1] CNVC gave permission to post the list here. It has evolved since then with the additions and changes of other wiki participants.