http://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?action=history&feed=atom&title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise 2026-10-17T13:09:14Z Revision history for this page on the wiki MediaWiki 1.28.0 http://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise&diff=2000&oldid=prev 2005-12-28T22:29:47Z

<p>fixing links</p> <table class="diff diff-contentalign-left" data-mw="interface"> <col class='diff-marker' /> <col class='diff-content' /> <col class='diff-marker' /> <col class='diff-content' /> <tr style='vertical-align: top;' lang='en'> <td colspan='2' style="background-color: white; color:black; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan='2' style="background-color: white; color:black; text-align: center;">Revision as of 22:29, 28 December 2005</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l14" >Line 14:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 14:</td></tr> <tr><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* were you reluctant? how did they react?</div></td><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* were you reluctant? how did they react?</div></td></tr> <tr><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"></td><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"></td></tr> <tr><td class='diff-marker'>−</td><td style="color:black; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>3. 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John Abbe http://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise&diff=1967&oldid=prev 2005-12-27T19:56:32Z

<p>added link to differentiation</p> <table class="diff diff-contentalign-left" data-mw="interface"> <col class='diff-marker' /> <col class='diff-content' /> <col class='diff-marker' /> <col class='diff-content' /> <tr style='vertical-align: top;' lang='en'> <td colspan='2' style="background-color: white; color:black; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan='2' style="background-color: white; color:black; text-align: center;">Revision as of 19:56, 27 December 2005</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1" >Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class='diff-marker'>−</td><td style="color:black; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>Purpose: To help us explore the difference between why we do (or don't do) what we're asked.</div></td><td class='diff-marker'>+</td><td style="color:black; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>Purpose: To help us explore the difference between why we do (or don't do) what we're asked. <ins class="diffchange diffchange-inline">([[Request vs. Demand]])</ins></div></td></tr> <tr><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"></td><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"></td></tr> <tr><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>Think about a time when someone asked you to do something and you didn't want to, but you did it anyway.</div></td><td class='diff-marker'>&#160;</td><td style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #333333; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #e6e6e6; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>Think about a time when someone asked you to do something and you didn't want to, but you did it anyway.</div></td></tr> </table>

John Abbe http://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php?title=Requests_vs._Demands_exercise&diff=1963&oldid=prev 2005-12-27T19:45:10Z

<p></p> <p><b>New page</b></p><div>Purpose: To help us explore the difference between why we do (or don't do) what we're asked.<br /> <br /> Think about a time when someone asked you to do something and you didn't want to, but you did it anyway.<br /> <br /> Write answers to these questions:<br /> <br /> 1. What did they ask you to do?<br /> <br /> 2. How exactly did they ask?<br /> <br /> * &quot;extra&quot; words (not part of what they wanted you to do)<br /> * tone<br /> * body language<br /> * were you reluctant? how did they react?<br /> <br /> 3. Why did you not want to do it? ([[needs]])<br /> <br /> 4. Why did you decide to do it [anyway]? (needs)<br /> <br /> 5. How was your relationship affected over time?<br /> <br /> Get together in pairs and talk about each person's situation, focusing on these questions.<br /> <br /> Now, think about a time when someone asked you to do something, and you did it with no reservations at all; you were very happy to do it.<br /> <br /> Write answers to the same questions (except 3)<br /> <br /> Get together in pairs and talk about each person's situation, focusing on the questions, and why was their reluctance or bitterness in the first but not the second?<br /> <br /> <br /> Whole group - what's different between the first situation and the second?<br /> <br /> (in which did you experience more choice?)<br /> <br /> (in which did you have more understanding/compassion for why they wanted it?)<br /> <br /> When you ask someone to do something, if they agree what do you want their reason to be?<br /> (to meet their own needs)<br /> <br /> What could you do to find out what their reasons are?<br /> <br /> When someone asks you to do something, and you do it, what do you want your reasons to be?<br /> <br /> What can you do when those are not your reasons?<br /> <br /> Anything else interesting you noticed or learned from doing this?<br /> <br /> <br /> Takeaways to mention if they haven't learned it themselves (or to emphasize if they have):<br /> <br /> We have an intrinsic, natural need to contribute to others' well being.<br /> <br /> Demand can trigger our need for freedom, masking our need to contribute.<br /> <br /> Demand can be in the asking or in me.<br /> <br /> (segues well into [[requests]])</div>

John Abbe